Pregnancy

So like this morning, my friend called from the other side of the world or rather another continent and told me she was pregnant. I was stunned, mad and on the verge of being crazy.

Apparently the father was her boyfriend all along. My friend (let call her D) just returned to school after my constant nagging sessions and is preparing to take her A levels. D's only like 2 years older then me and had dropped out school and been working but ever since we caught up through Skype, she decided to take up A levels and maybe go to a good university before pursuing her ambition: Environmental and Water Sciences. She and her boyfriend had been together for 4 years and he dropped out of high school. He didn't really want to pursue furthur education because he thinks owning a shop which does repairs to bikes/cars is enough for his future. Unfortunately, his business has been deteoriating. All he does now is drink and chill with his friends and spending less time with D.

I know they been like together for quite some time, 4 years is her longest record. But being with someone without financial stability doesn't really look like they are going to have a bright future. My friend is broke too and now they want to keep the baby and apparently none of them feel like it is an important thing to earn some money and prepare for the future. And she have to stop the education plan which she already paid for.

My friend is worried sick because apparently D's boyfriend have to marry her because of the baby and well, she feels insecured but she was so sure that he is THE one. And all she can think is that. Yes I know it is tough, losing someone and having a baby you have to exhaust yourself to look after. She kept saying, 'The baby came at the wrong time!' and I was stunned. I really feel sorry for the kid, I mean... I used to ask my dad why they want to have me. They say because they wants to build a family and they always say that they never regretted having me. Daddy said it was one of his happiest days in life. I mean if the child grow up and ask, Daddy why did you want to have me? OKAY MAYBE I THINK TOO MUCH.

Apparently D's boyfriend doesn't really give a shit but said something like, If you want to keep it, keep it. We will figure something. But all he does was act serious when it is required like meeting the in-laws and continue drinking and smoking his freaking life away while D becomes paranoid which is also not healthy for the baby.

Pre-Marital sex sucks especially when you're still schooling and you're going to have a baby. Hurts me even more when D couldn't see what I see : A bleak future for the baby. It didn't hit them yet that they have to look after the children and sacrifice what they have now for this child. And judging at D's boyfriend, it doesn't even sound possible. He just had a record with the police and well I don't really have a good impression of him. We used to be friends and he is one of those dumb guys. I'd asked him what was his ambition like 4 years ago and he said, 'To score as many chicks as possible.' I mean, that was 4 years ago but can you imagine how my heart sank when I thought of his answer. I feel so sad for D and the baby.

So just an advice to the readers : Please keep your legs close. It really isn't hard.